Why is Death a Taboo?

So how are you ?

Let's take a moment to chat....

I want to talk about the great taboo that is death. We are all born and we will all die. If we are lucky in-between we will have some fun !

It seems as a society we talk openly about the trying to have a baby, showing pictures of the pregnancy and then discussing the birth, along with publically posting pics.Commentary of our life as it unfolds and all the great things we have and do are validated and supported with endless thumbs up and smiley faces, but no-one really posts or opens up about the bereavement emotion and death the final side of life.

For those who have experienced grief you will know the kick of the raw emotions, the mental and physical implications it can have and how the promises from friends and family to keep in touch to help out and to be there are mostly hollow words that fade with time.

The weeks pass and the world moves on leaving you in a trance that can leave you isolated, alone and anxious.

The person who has died was in your life for a reason through blood or choice. The impact they had be it as a companion, a sounding board, a problem solver, a planner, a joker or a wise guru ( the list is endless) is now missing and all you can do is recall memories and conversations but depending on where you are in your journey this can be to painful.

The roles that were played out by you and the dead person are now empty moments of time - how can you fill this space? What about the guilt you possibly feel over this new freedom?

Every experience is different and maybe this is the reason we don't discuss and seek help - is it because we feel no one really understands? Is the fact we don't discuss it in some cultures the downward spiral that stops us asking for help? Everyone else seems to manage there must be something wrong with me?

Those around you can become distant they don't know how to bring the subject up - the fear of upsetting you? The greater fear of facing into their own future and how painful this moment can be? Ignorance is bliss or is it simply denial is futile?

So let's stop and think...

If we are lucky enough to have loved ones still with us let's give them a call, a cuddle a thank you I love you text ! It won't hurt , you will feel better and I guarantee they will be delighted even if they think you are after something ; )

Take a moment to talk about a good death - what would that look like? How would they like to be remembered? Funeral arrangements? Grief is hard enough without having to second guess what people would want - plus different relationships will see different sides of people so those left griefing will have different opinions making it a minefield of emotions.

Finally for those who know someone who is bereft and griefing reach out ask them how they are? Talk to them, more importantly listen to them. Discuss and reminiss about the person who has died, help them bring the good memories to the front.Helping them smile.

Know there are many places you can go to get support whilst you travel this road. At www.journeylifecoaching.co.uk I specialise in tailored one on one sessions which allow the bereaved to work through their grief and come to peace with their loss.

So if you or someone you know would benefit from an initial free session then just reach